Thursday, January 04, 2007

Theres a strange woman in my room - Explained


Please read the previous post before reading this..

People are constantly evolving. Changing.
The person I am today is not the person I was yesterday..and certainly not the person I was a year or 5 years ago.
I think differently. I see things differently.
I'm like a Russian Matrioshka doll one inside the other..inside the other..
Somewhere inside me is the 10 year old boy..and the 15 year old teen..and then the 25 year old man...
We marry and fall in love with someone and then life takes over and he goes to work she goes to work...and new layers are added..and the evolution progresses..
And before you know it theres a complete stranger in your room.
Sure... a familiar one..but still a stranger..

And then when we try to mend things we try going back to the good old days not realizing that that person is no longer here..

The focus has to be on getting to know this new person..who he or she is...his or her life...thoughts etc..and that can have an exciting element to it as well..providing you like the new person..youre saddled with.

23 Comments:

Blogger exsemgirl said...

Yay first time I am first to comment!!!!!!!

Great explanation though I did understand that from the last...

Sometimes some things sound better without their explanation. But I guess you have gotta be fair to those who haven't understood.

January 04, 2007 3:44 PM  
Blogger the_laamb said...

ah it all makes sense now phew (whipes brow). still i think i know my wife still.

great post and great explanation!

January 04, 2007 3:47 PM  
Blogger exsemgirl said...

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January 04, 2007 3:49 PM  
Blogger kasamba said...

You have a lucky wife!

January 04, 2007 4:37 PM  
Blogger tuesdaywishes said...

Have fun with your old-new wife!

January 04, 2007 8:33 PM  
Blogger megapixel said...

okay, i didnt want to comment on the last post cuz I totally didnt get it, and I thought you had lost it. It was too shrouded in mysterious fog. but now I do get it after rereading it three times.plus the explanation. but I gotta comment cuz of undying devotion. its good. but weird. However, I do like the russian doll mashal. that is genius.
communication is so important in a marriage. what is kosher adultery? that sounds like an oxymoron if i ever heard one.

January 04, 2007 11:28 PM  
Blogger David_on_the_Lake said...

Exsem...
Congrats on being first!
Yes I agree..the less said the better...
I'm all for minimum words maximum message

Laamb...
lol..Glad its all come together..
How long are you married?

kas...
Just because I have it down in thwory does not mean I've mastered implementing it
:-)

tuesday...
lol...will do

megapixel...
lol...
theres no such thing as weird..only unfamiliar

kosher adultery is a book by shmuley boteach..
Ive never read it but I think the idea is that if yo and your spouse can use your imaginations..you can get the same rush that adultery would give you..
Not sure..bt I think thats the gist of it

January 05, 2007 9:40 AM  
Blogger socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Very astute of you to realize and wish you could teach that to everyone else.

January 05, 2007 11:48 AM  
Blogger megapixel said...

what will they think of next?

January 05, 2007 2:52 PM  
Blogger smb said...

very poetic

January 05, 2007 3:28 PM  
Blogger Independent Frum Thinker said...

Interesting point. It would definitely help people to think that way.

January 05, 2007 3:57 PM  
Blogger the_laamb said...

been married only for 2 months so possible in time i will forget who she is :P for now its still fresh!

January 06, 2007 11:20 AM  
Blogger the only way i know said...

love the way you put it..even though you didnt listen to me - :P
I'm one of those that didnt get it all the way without the explanation..
I second Kas..
Lucky wife you got!
;)

January 06, 2007 2:19 PM  
Blogger jemima3 said...

totally beautiful previous post, somewhat spoilt by this one....hope you do like the new person you're saddled with!

January 06, 2007 6:18 PM  
Blogger Larry Stiefel said...

I don't agree. I've been married 13 years, and i would say my wife and i have evolved together. She's less a stranger now than when we got married. We complete eachother, just in a different way thasn when we started out. It comes from the mutual experiences we've shared, and of course from raising our kids. Ge,, I'm usually the hard line pessimist...
Larry (the maggid)

January 06, 2007 10:28 PM  
Blogger David_on_the_Lake said...

swfm...
I guess awarenes is the first step toward implementation...

megapixel...
lol..stay tuned!

smb..
Thanks

January 06, 2007 10:52 PM  
Blogger David_on_the_Lake said...

IFT...
It sure would..

the laamb...
oh..can i still wish u mazel tov?
:-)

towik...
welll..u didnt have to read it..lol
and see what I wrote to towik..
:-)

jemima...
I'll let u know after I get to know her..

larry...
thats great that u get to totally evolve with her..I find that very difficult to do this day and age..when everyone spends so much time wrapped in their own lives..

January 06, 2007 10:54 PM  
Blogger It's All Good Now said...

Here's to renewed relationships and to the ties that bind (and sometimes choke).

January 07, 2007 9:38 AM  
Blogger socialworker/frustrated mom said...

It sure is ask R Abraham Twerski all his many books are based on awareness as the first step.

January 07, 2007 8:15 PM  
Blogger Mata Hari said...

Hi David. Interesting thought. Wanted to let you know that I'm checking in :)
Mata

January 07, 2007 8:39 PM  
Blogger David_on_the_Lake said...

itsallgood....
lol...amen..lets drink to that

swfm...
good point...

mata...
thanks for stoping by..
when are u gonna post somethng
:-)

January 08, 2007 12:51 PM  
Blogger Mata Hari said...

Just posted :)

January 08, 2007 2:15 PM  
Blogger knaidel maidel said...

Didn't need the explanation, though it does clarify a little. The original was beautiful on its own. Just wow. I think I will save this for future reference, it will be good to come back to or maybe give to a friend. Not one of your blogs passing in the night...

I have to say, though, the title of "strange woman in my room" sounds kind of... well... I thought I was on the wrong blog for a second. I haven't been around long enough to get used to your style of irony, I guess.

January 18, 2007 11:14 PM  

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