Theres a strange woman in my room - Explained
Please read the previous post before reading this..
People are constantly evolving. Changing.
The person I am today is not the person I was yesterday..and certainly not the person I was a year or 5 years ago.
I think differently. I see things differently.
I'm like a Russian Matrioshka doll one inside the other..inside the other..
Somewhere inside me is the 10 year old boy..and the 15 year old teen..and then the 25 year old man...
We marry and fall in love with someone and then life takes over and he goes to work she goes to work...and new layers are added..and the evolution progresses..
And before you know it theres a complete stranger in your room.
Sure... a familiar one..but still a stranger..
And then when we try to mend things we try going back to the good old days not realizing that that person is no longer here..
The focus has to be on getting to know this new person..who he or she is...his or her life...thoughts etc..and that can have an exciting element to it as well..providing you like the new person..youre saddled with.
posted by David_on_the_Lake at 2:51 PM
18 Comments:
Yay first time I am first to comment!!!!!!!
Great explanation though I did understand that from the last...
Sometimes some things sound better without their explanation. But I guess you have gotta be fair to those who haven't understood.
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You have a lucky wife!
okay, i didnt want to comment on the last post cuz I totally didnt get it, and I thought you had lost it. It was too shrouded in mysterious fog. but now I do get it after rereading it three times.plus the explanation. but I gotta comment cuz of undying devotion. its good. but weird. However, I do like the russian doll mashal. that is genius.
communication is so important in a marriage. what is kosher adultery? that sounds like an oxymoron if i ever heard one.
Exsem...
Congrats on being first!
Yes I agree..the less said the better...
I'm all for minimum words maximum message
Laamb...
lol..Glad its all come together..
How long are you married?
kas...
Just because I have it down in thwory does not mean I've mastered implementing it
:-)
tuesday...
lol...will do
megapixel...
lol...
theres no such thing as weird..only unfamiliar
kosher adultery is a book by shmuley boteach..
Ive never read it but I think the idea is that if yo and your spouse can use your imaginations..you can get the same rush that adultery would give you..
Not sure..bt I think thats the gist of it
Very astute of you to realize and wish you could teach that to everyone else.
what will they think of next?
very poetic
Interesting point. It would definitely help people to think that way.
love the way you put it..even though you didnt listen to me - :P
I'm one of those that didnt get it all the way without the explanation..
I second Kas..
Lucky wife you got!
;)
swfm...
I guess awarenes is the first step toward implementation...
megapixel...
lol..stay tuned!
smb..
Thanks
IFT...
It sure would..
the laamb...
oh..can i still wish u mazel tov?
:-)
towik...
welll..u didnt have to read it..lol
and see what I wrote to towik..
:-)
jemima...
I'll let u know after I get to know her..
larry...
thats great that u get to totally evolve with her..I find that very difficult to do this day and age..when everyone spends so much time wrapped in their own lives..
Here's to renewed relationships and to the ties that bind (and sometimes choke).
It sure is ask R Abraham Twerski all his many books are based on awareness as the first step.
Hi David. Interesting thought. Wanted to let you know that I'm checking in :)
Mata
itsallgood....
lol...amen..lets drink to that
swfm...
good point...
mata...
thanks for stoping by..
when are u gonna post somethng
:-)
Just posted :)
Didn't need the explanation, though it does clarify a little. The original was beautiful on its own. Just wow. I think I will save this for future reference, it will be good to come back to or maybe give to a friend. Not one of your blogs passing in the night...
I have to say, though, the title of "strange woman in my room" sounds kind of... well... I thought I was on the wrong blog for a second. I haven't been around long enough to get used to your style of irony, I guess.
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